Let me start by saying that the greatest human need is the need for love. There are many types of love. We will be discussing the development of a long term relationship between two non-related people.
A great deal of research has been conducted at Harvard University where a staff of scientists has studied the subject of love. Their findings indicate that love, like other good things, can be produced deliberately by human beings. They stated that there is no reason why we cannot learn to generate love as we do other natural forces.
Many people feel guilty about their desire for love, thinking they should suppress that desire. Your desire for love should be expressed from within outward toward God, yourself and your fellow man. God can only do for you what he can do through you. It truly is through your own thoughts, feelings and expectations that you attract love to your life.
“Love comes from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith”. — Timothy 1:5
A good friend of mine often says, “Now is not the right time to for me to fall in love.” I remind her that there is never a “right” time and that she is blocking her blessings by thinking, saying and believing that.
Believe in yourself & your ability to attract love
The most important thing to remember is that love first begins within you then it is released through your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.
Start with release. A full cup can not be filled. You will want to let go of any negative thoughts and feelings about old relationships. Drop that relationship baggage and follow the saying “Let go & let God.” For information on how-to release click here for a prior article on this subject.
Next fill yourself with self love. My aunt used to tell us girls, “How can you expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself.” As I have gotten older I realize how true her words were. You have to learn how to love yourself by accepting and loving your body, your past, your current situation no matter what they are. Also, remember that your current situation does not have to be a reflection of your future. Develop a few positive affirmations to repeat daily to help you accomplish these tasks. Once you begin to love yourself you will no longer feel at the mercy of people, situations and conditions. You will become master of your world and free from hurt, fear, disappointment and disillusionment.
Finally begin to radiate love to every part of your world. Start silently send loving thoughts to others, even the people that you do not get along with, for example that negative co-worker, bless your bills as you pay them and so on. As you send love out to people, situations and conditions you will begin to attract success and happiness. Like attracts like.
Write a list of the traits you would like in your loved one. Take your time to develop this list. Take 2 to 3 weeks to really think about what you want. Review & revise your list often during this time period. This step adds focus and energy to what you want.
Only include positive statements or words, to attract only the best into your life. Do no include negative statements such as, “He will not be critical of me” instead include a positive message such as, “My love will be supportive of me and my interests”.
Develop a “Top Ten” most important attributes from your long list, these are your must haves or deal breakers. For example, “a sense of humor or being funny” is important to me as I believe that will take you through the long haul & tough times.
Do not become obsessive of your list, remain flexible. God & the universe know more about what you really need and want than you do. Do not discount that person who does not have 100% of the traits on your list, as you may be being sent something better. For example, I am 5’10” and I wrote that I would like someone who is 6’2” or taller, but the person I am attracted to now is not that tall. Since he has so many of the other traits I desire I do not care that he is not that tall. As a matter of fact, you should end your list with the statement, “I want these traits in my partner or something better.”
The last step is to pray over your list daily & then let go & let God. How long should you pray, it varies for different people but you will know in your spirit when you are done.
How long will it take? The time will vary from person to person but trust that God and the universe want you to be happy and are working on bringing you your best life. This is the hardest step and many people give up before their requests can be full-filled. If you plant flowers one day they do not bloom the next day. Just because you do not see anything does not mean that nothing is happening, actually they are growing and taking root underground before you see anything.
While you are waiting for your love to manifest, the following are some things you can do:
- Surround self with love, happiness and success. Read about love or positive stories. Watch loving and/or happy movies. Listen to love or music that makes you feel good.
- Make room for love. Clear out a space in your closet, a drawer or some where in your home for your new partner, as a symbol of your commitment.
- Visualize loving situations, for example see yourself walking hand in hand on the beach, or whatever situation you desire. Remember that the more detailed the vision the more energy that will flow to that situation.
- Write affirmations about love. Develop and write affirmations daily. Write each one 10 times each as 10 is the number of manifesting. Here is a bible verse that can be used as an excellent affirmation, “I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.” — Song of Solomon 7:10
The following card is for my beloved. …………. Happy Valentines Day and I love you more than you know.